Online dating rules for girls
Unless you work in a totally male milieu – for instance, a urologists’s office, NASCAR race track, or beef ‘n’ ale house -- your quest to meet a man will take you to the Internet.The good news is that you’ll find thousands and thousands of guys online, all trolling for dates.In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.But because we had to go and evolve and develop complex brains and societies, we had to go and make it all complicated and shit; what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and we end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested in a guy, shouldn’t she be willing to make the first move – after all, it physical at first, or can there be an emotional connection as well? Your online dating profile is your verbal equivalent of a peacock’s lustrous plumage When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of guy you’re looking for; while guys in general are wider ranging in the types they’re willing to date (or bang), there will be plenty who have a narrower focus. As I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to show yourself as someone who that type would be attracted to; think if it as proving that you know how to speak their language.’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.Think carefully about inviting us back after a first date – Yes, we might well ask you but that doesn’t necessarily mean we want you to say yes.A kiss on your doorstep is enough to reassure us that you are interested but if you invite us in for the night we will start to wonder if this happens to every guy you date.
Here’s our crash course on the DOs and DON’Ts of cyberdating.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
, we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
I’ll be the first to admit: I write most of my articles with a male audience in mind. well, I’m a guy, and a lot of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a male perspective and male experiences. As a general rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when trying to improve their chances with guys.
Men, on the other hand, are told that they exist in binary states; either they’re good with women or they aren’t.A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.